About two weeks ago I turned 25, and it was a blessing of a birthday. My parents hosted a party and many of my dearest friends in the whole world were there. It was fantastic.
Before and since my birthday, I’ve worked on a list of things that I think I know right now – lessons that, looking back on the past year, I’ve stumbled over and tried to jump-off from. At first I was going to call them “my rules,” but really they’re more of lessons that I’m operating from now, stepping stones in this process of growing up and in and out.
- You don’t know everything, but knowing that is very important.
- You’re not the only one with longings. Everyone is yearning for something more.
- Give people grace. Especially your husband. If you two, who know and love each other best and most, won’t give the other grace, who else on this earth will?
- On your lunch break, do something that’s life-giving to you. Use that time to recharge. Stay at your desk only if something is pressing.
- You’re still figuring stuff out, and that is OK.
- Don’t compare your failures to everyone else’s highlight reels.
- Go to bed.
- The internet is not the answer. (#7 and #8 are usually connected.)
- If looking at a friend’s pictures of their huge new house, adorable baby, awesome job, etc. gets you down, then STOP it. Discontentment is made of a thousand tiny choices.
- Everything goes in seasons – marriage, work, friendships, etc.
- When a friend experiences loss or hurt, try to always say or do something. I think acting like nothing happened can hurt so much more than any attempt at empathy can.
- Being goofy with Garret is incredibly life-giving for you. Always do that!
- Discipline, contentment, relationships, and anything that truly matters, all require work and time. And, progress is always hard-fought.
- Keep in touch with your family and your heart-friends. Do the work to stay close. You need them. They need you.
- Buy clothes that fit. (And, give away the clothes that you want to fit.)
- Do what works.
- Do things on purpose.
- Do your best to spend more time creating than consuming.
- Find your “safe” people. If a friendship becomes toxic, it’s ok to walk away.
- Save money. If you don’t, you’ll only get in more debt.
- You are going to change your mind throughout your life, sometimes about big issues. This is an asset, not a weakness. Growing is what life is about. You’re not a rock.
- BUT, don’t believe every convincing article you read. Use the wisdom and discernment God has given you.
- Write what resonates with you, and most likely it will resonate with someone else, too.
- If you want to create art, you have to do the work.
Here’s to lessons learned and revised, minds changed and refined.
And, thanks so much for reading here. It’s truly meant a lot to me this past year.